2 posts tagged “self acceptance”
Last night I attended the debut of the True Colors tour here in Las Vegas. It was a fantastic show that I would absolutely recommend buying the highest price tickets for. The Dresden Dolls were amazing and I've now fallen in love with Brian Viglione. Everyone on the tour was amazing and I just can't get enough of Deborah Harry.
The most moving part was with Rosie O'Donnell. She's so funny and fabulous. I love her to bits. I love how she accepts herself and kind of urges fat acceptance. We need more people to make it clear that no matter what we look like, no matter why we look the way we look, it's perfectly okay.
As she kind of grabbed her tummy she said she loved every inch. She accepts her body. I think we'd all be a lot better off if we just continued onward not trying desperately to change ourselves. There is the health angle of it all but I think that's such nonsense.
Seriously, while my fat may kill me, I'd put more money on my liver shutting me down first. The society is so hell bent on looking skinny like Paris Hilton. Well, look at where it got her!
I've never believed in "coming out" about things we always were. Gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered and surely hundreds of other things people have a yearning to announce to the general public. It's one of those things that I understand in a rhetorical sense. I know why people feel it must be and why they must come out, but I don't think it's quite the way to go about things. It makes me ask these rhetorical questions:
- Why do you need to come out?
- Why do you need to tell them who you are?
- How come you aren't acting like yourself already?
- Does it make a difference telling them?
- Why will you think differently of me when you find out a personal preference of mine?
- Why aren't you acting like who you really are already?
- You have to announce who you are before you become it?
I know people's answers to all these questions but it isn't right. When I bring my partner to a family function I do not expect anyone to be surprised. It's a huge shame on the family if they feel differently about them.
They need to be prepared for such things. They aren't from this generation. I hate that excuse. It's like just because someone is the equivalent of moldy cheese I need to treat them differently. It's bullocks because I have seen the oldest of people openly accept unexpected difference without a blink of the eye. Just as much as a younger person can.
The more I study world history the less sympathy I have for the "this is new" excuse. This is not new. Sexual difference is not new just as much as liberal free thought is not new. If I believed the teachings I received during my upbringing I would have been convinced that all these "radical preferences" are new and that is why we must break it to society slowly. But the truth is that it's not new. It has just always been pushed to the side and treated like something we're all going to get used to some day ... just not today.
So what do we do? Let's just do the obvious and be strong, being who we really are without others persuading us to be otherwise. That is the downfall of different people. They are afraid to accept that they are who they are after everyone tells them they are not who they think they are. Thankfully I had the fortunate penchant to just shrug my shoulders (to this very day) when someone tells me I am not who I think I am — or that I do not feel the way I think I feel.
I don't think it would be such a big deal if you were who you were from the start. I don't think it would have been such a huge issue if the different people of the world would just be. Sure, lots of people would still take a stand against us and they would still try to blow us to dust. But it would be different. After you are on your own. After you are free of people who could hold you down, then you should be yourself because then what others think of you has no imprisonment upon you. It would be important to note that you should always be yourself, even when you are under someone else's thumb, however you have to have the smarts to realize what you can get away with and what will get you killed.
People let others haunt them too much. Even after they gain freedom and are away from the nest they still bite their tongue and "what if" about their parents or family back at the homestead. I suppose the issue here is that too many people are afraid of losing love and support. But you can always find love and support. The one's you were given by default are not yours to keep if things don't match up. But giving those away doesn't mean you can never have them in another form again. There is always friends to be your family and you should never be afraid of tossing away people who love you but disagree with you. If someone disagrees with who you are, your very programming, then they don't love you as much as you think they do.
